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Slight correction PLUS Question about facebook etiquette.

24 Dec

So, since SOMEONE (coughcoughELISABETHcoughcough) seems to be a little behind in her blogging, I’d like to give a little update to my last point, and ask a completely unrelated question. I recently drove 15 hours in a car with my husband and sister-in-law Kelsey, who happenes to be a HUGE HUGE fan of a cappella groups. Like, huge. She loves them. And while my opinion remains largely unchanged about them, I will admit to being inpressed with their harmonization when they are NOT trying to make drum sounds with their throats. Please listen to this song, which I think is beautiful, by Vocal Point. I guess they are not allllll bad. I’ll admit it. (sorry for being so harsh)


Now on to other things–here is a question. Is it rude/mean/jerky/stuck-up/any of the above to point out inaccuracies in facebook posts. I don’t mean like…spelling mistakes. I mean like when people share a picture with a “news” story in the caption, but there is some glaring inaccuracy in it. Here’s a recent example–there has been this picture and speech going around, falsely described as a speech from the father of Columbine High School shooting victim, Rachel Scott given to congress just after the lastest shooting in Newton. Well–the thing is, that is just not true. It is a speech he gave in 1999 (with a word here or there taken out). So, for everyone angrily saying “well, you won’t see this in the news thanks to the LIBERAL MEDIA” I am trying to stay calm as I say yeah…you won’t see it in the news, because no matter how liberal you claim the media is, it’s not really news to report on something that happened more than a dozen years ago. Conservative media shouldn’t be reporting it either, because that is just silly.

I go back and forth about what to do. If I were to post something like that, and wrongly cite it, I would be embarrassed and want someone to tell me so that I could take it down and avoid many more people seeing it. However, the sentiment of the speech (basically don’t blame the NRA for this tragedy) is relevant to the issue today, so I understand why people are sharing it. It wouldn’t lose it’s meaning if it was just reported correctly as a speech from 1999, right after the COLUMBINE shooting, but some facebook person decided to put incorrect information on it, and how it’s getting shared everywhere like that. It’s just weird, and frustrating.

So anyway–should I just keep my mouth shut, or should I let people know of the inaccuracy? This applies to lots of situations, the speech described above just being the most recent incident. I don’t want to be “one of those” facebook people, but I also don’t want people to be embarrassed, as I would be. It’s like if you see someone with their fly unzipped, or skirt tucked in to their tights after they leave the bathroom. You can’t just let them walk around like that!!!! You have tell them! Are the rules different on facebook?

That’s all. Please tell me what to do. And please, feel free to let me know if I post something inaccurate on facebook. Because that’s embarrassing.



12 Dec


Everyone in Provo seems to love love LOVE acapella singing groups. You’ve got Vocal Point, Pentatonix, and countless ward talent show numbers. But I have to say…I HATE THEM. Not so sound harsh or anything, but I usually want to leave half way through any song I hear with people making drum sounds with their mouths that “sound JUST LIKE REAL DRUMS!!!!!!”

No they don’t.

The good Lord created musical instruments for a reason–and that reason was, I’m pretty sure, that people were trying to make those sounds themselves and creating acapella choirs.

What do you think? Awesome? Not Awesome? Am I justified in feeling so annoyed, or am I a scrooge that hates everything good and happy?



(just listen to this, ok? You’re bound to see what I mean)

To love another person is to see the face of God.

13 Oct

I’m reading Les Miserables right now. While it may sound a little cheesy perhaps, the story and the characters in Les Miserables are sacred to me.  I am excited for the movie and you better believe I’ll be there on opening day, but it will be weird to see these literary characters and passages portrayed in front of a camera, to someone else’s interpretation. *shrug* That’s always the thing when you make books into movies I guess. Or…the musical into a movie, as the case may be. Although, in my opinion, the musical is a wonderfully accurate portrayal of the book.  The feeling between characters is very similar. There is just hundreds of pages dedicated to character development that is not necessarily portrayed in the musical. So everyone should read the book.

While the actual film might not quite capture some of my deepest spiritual moments and enlightenments, that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy the following prom0tional posters which I find incredibly beautiful and pretty much perfect.



Fantine’s picture is bigger because she is my favorite character of the whole thing.

P.S. So, Elisabeth’s last post. Isn’t she AMAZING?!?!?! I’m glad she’s up and blogging again!

Dear Elisabeth,

25 Mar

Hey.  It’s me.  Remember me? I’m that one girl who is sometimes a bad friend and doesn’t call you enough.

So, yesterday I was talking to Jessica.  We started talking about this article she once read about people who make new years resolutions to rekindle friendships that they might have lost or just neglected.  According to this article, that is sort of a silly thing to do, because there is a reason you moved on, and you should just move forward.  I agree with this to a certain extent.  People change, and paths diverge.

But I don’t think that applies to us.  I don’t want it to. I won’t let it.

So, let’s talk all the time again and stuff.  I miss you.

Love, Annette


What does it feel like to spray someone in the face with pepper spray?

21 Nov

Dear Elisabeth,

We haven’t talked much about current events lately.  I just wanted to share my thoughts on something I have been thinking about lately.

Sometimes, I totally get why police have to step in and dissipate riots and protests. But sometimes I really don’t get it at all.

Here is a good visual of how I think of some of these situations:

Look at that violent way she is holding that parasol! She must be pepper sprayed!

Because…just watch this for a while:

or this

or look at this picture

So yeah.  What do you think?

Sincerely your occassionaly horrified-at-what-she-sees-police-doing friend,


Viva La Pantsuit!

17 Nov

“The Church has not attempted to indicate just how long women’s or girls’ dresses should be nor whether they should wear pant suits or other types of clothing. We have always counseled our members to be modest in their dress, maintaining such standards in connection therewith as would not be embarrassing to themselves and to their relatives, friends, and associates.”–“Statements of the LDS First Presidency: A Topical Compendium” by Gary James Bergera (with a foreword by Dale C LeCheminant).  ISBN-13: 978-1-56085-195-0.

Please read this now:

It occurred to me today as I was dressing to give a presentation in one of my political science classes that I felt much more professional, dressed up, respectful in my expensive pantsuit than I do in most of my dresses or skirts (although I should say that I have 1 or 2 dresses that are N-I-C-E and make me feel just as nice).  But anyways, I was pondering on the slight tragedy that if I were to wear my pantsuit to church, where we are supposed to dress in a way that shows respect to our Heavenly Parents, I would get…some very disapproving stares to say the least.  So I stick with my dresses and skirts, which are all very cute, but really now: Don’t you think nicely ironed slacks and blouse are more respectful to Heavenly Father and Heavenly Mother than a rather blase dress or skirt?

So…what do you think about wearing slacks to church?

My sister, My grandpa (in 'professional' wear for society might I add) and me. I mean, it's a nice outfit and everything.


But look how nice this looks? ya know? I'm just saying.

11 Nov

Dr. Anca Sprenger just complimented my outfit.

I think I almost died. Because she is amazing…and always well dressed and this one time I caught myself slightly drooling over these incredibly beautiful tights she had on during a meeting (which she got at this “charming boutique in Paris last month”).

This may be the best day of my life.

This is her.

P.S. So, me and my good buddy Trace were talking with her during the Women’s Studies Conference last week (Anca was the coordinator of it) and she was talking about how the MOA was being really hard to work with and never answering her calls.  Then she paused and said “At the end of this conference, I’m going to break some knee caps.”  (imagine this in a Romanian/French accent…which she has. Yes…both) When Trace and I burst into hysterical laughter, she explained “You Mormons don’t approve much of angry language. If I can’t curse, I’ll just quote violent lines from movies.” It was hilarious. She is awesome. AND she liked my outfit today. fa la la.

7 things that I decided to write about real quick.

9 Nov

I’m gonna say some stuff real quick.

  1. Everyone should read this please:  I really like that blog first of all. This girl is funny, and eloquent about it, which is the best kind of funny to be.  But also, she covers some good stuff in this post.  Most significant I think that she actually does love and respect stay-at-home-moms.  This has been a pattern in my life recently:  I call myself a feminist…because I am a feminist and I am trying to show people that actually it is a good thing, so I try to live my life the best way I can so that maybe people will not be so scared of feminists. I don’t know if it’s working… But anyways, very often people that are very close to me get defensive when the find out/realize that I am a feminist and jump right into saying that they are stay-at-home-moms, that they love being stay-at-home-moms, and that they are dedicated to the protection of respect for stay-at-home-moms.  THAT hurts my feelings, because holy heck! I love stay-at-home-moms!  I don’t think being one means you are less intelligent–smart people are stay at home moms! I don’t know why people think I think that I hate stay-at-home-moms! (well I do…and it all about assumptions…but…stop making those assumptions…because it is just silly). ALSO, let’s remember that I am not a mom yet.  I don’t know what will end up being the best set-up for my family, but it might be that I will be a stay at home mom! And if that is the right thing, then it will be AWESOME. Because, stay-at-home-moms are awesome.  My mom opted for that route, and she is the best mom that has ever  lived on the planet.  Seriously.  She’s the  She is totally hip and smokin.  Everyone loves her. Her love and teaching is responsible for any success I have.  I know I’ll never be as good as her, but I’ll try when little Evan-Annette’s make their debuts.  ALSO, everyone should know that I know that being a stay-at-home-mom is the hardest job.  I never said I didn’t think it was hard.  Ask anyone…people agree that it is the hardest of the jobs.  Ok?  So…please don’t think I’m hating on the stay-at-home-moms. What I am fighting against is the idea that there is only one choice for women to gain fulfillment.  What I want is cultural pressure to go away so women can do what makes them and their families happiest without because called anti-family or givin the “love the sinner” look in Relief society.  As the Mormon Child Bride says, “And aren’t we so  lucky that we even get to have this conversation, however belabored? That some of us are lucky enough to SAHM when we want to, and some of us are lucky enough to work and still be moms, if we want to. And really, I suppose the only truly hard thing is not having any choices at all. That. Is. The. Hardest.”  so let’s make it acceptable for people to have choices.
  2. I also think people should be reminded that according to the doctrines of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, a man’s most important role is fatherhood.  Just as a woman’s is motherhood.  And I believe that one day contradictions in Mormon culture and strange rules will go away and everyone will remember that.   Ladies, don’t look for a man who will be the best monetary provider for  you and your family (because guess what…you can be a monetary provider too).  Look for a man that will nurture you and your children.   And will someone please tell me I am not crazy for being confused about the temple worker rule that “Women with children under 18 should not be temple workers” WHICH implies that the place they should be is home with the kids…but it is ok for the men to take 5 hour shifts at the temple and leave their under 18 kids at home with the wife.  No way jose. I know church doctrine.  That rule doesn’t make sense. So, either you say PARENTS with kids uner 18 should spend more time at home the kids (which I think would be an awesome rule), so we’ll let the empty nesters work in the temple…OR, you say men and women with children under 18 can work in the temple, and that it is actually ok for Men to watch the kids while the women go to work in the temple…because that is actually not something that goes against any roles presented in the Proclamation on the Family.
  3. Women’s Studies had it’s first annual conference last week. It was a lot of work, and I learned a lot of things about how to throw a conference.  I also learned a lot of things from the awesome research that was presented.  But, the best part of it was watching the faces of the presenters as they talked about their projects.  Or the faces of the professors who watched the students they mentored present.  Or hearing people say “I didn’t even know BYU had a Women’s Studies Program! I want more information/to be on the e-mail list/to tell all my friends” instead of  the expected “What are all you anti-family feminists doing here at the Lord’s University.”  Because when people say the latter, I can’t help but wonder if they even pay attention in church or to their scripture study…or listened to ANY of the sessions or lectures Women’s Studies organizes.
  4. The Occupy Wall Street movement is interesting.  And I get why a lot of people don’t think too highly of it.  But here’s the thing.  If you sort through all the crazy stuff, the reason for the protests is that there are socially constructed barriers that keep people from becoming as successful as those top money earners…no matter how hard they work.  It makes me quite mad to hear (…) people’s seriously rude critiques of the movement because all the protesters are just lazy.  And to that I say…not everyone grew up in the suburbs, or in the church, or with your parents who were able to give you the opportunities you have.   So be more understanding and loving everyone and instead of being mean, try to help the situation.  (fyi: telling them to get off their lazy bums and read a book is not helping the situation…it is just making things worse i think).
  5. Evan is officially student teaching at Salem Hills High School next semester!  So that’s awesome.
  6. Lastly, I am doing this really awesome personal research and am finding out this awesome stuff, and if I actually write a good paper about it, I’ll be able to publish it.  It is seriously really fun and so far it has included facebook surveys and planting an undercover agent ( husband) in various priesthood lessons.  bwahahaha. No one suspects him! And the research will only get funner.
  7. Also, special thanks to MeganP who texted me this little thing that she probably didn’t think was that awesome, but was more comforting and empowering for me than she will ever know.  I like that girl.

“Then don’t stand idly looking on…”

26 Sep

I heard a quote…or maybe I read it…and you must forgive me for not remembering the source:

“If you’re wrong, it’s ok.  Sometimes your wrong.  But if you are right, you better speak up”

This makes me think of the motto of sorts for

“If only one voice is spoken, only one voice will be heard”

Which makes me think of something President Hinckley once said in an interview:

“He [Heavenly Father] could change things, yes.  But there is no agitation for that.  We don’t find it”

And these three quotes make me think of a little something Evan told me yesterday.

“Annette, I think you’re right.  None of these things you are feeling and thinking are any reason to fee bad.  You are not the only one who feels this way. You’re not crazy. You’re not broken.  People will start questioning.  People will start talking.  Things will change. “

Me: “Everyone is too scared say anything”

“Well, then why don’t you do it.”

So I will.


13 Sep



I don't smile like that for anything else